Fight The New Drug

Oh, I know It is Strange! To address this subject in the public platform itself is considered taboo in our society and since Church leaders consistently avoid any hot issue on the table, will also successfully avoid this seemingly bizarre subject to be addressed from the pulpit. We have hardly few people who are targeting this really old virus. The danger of getting backlash for breaking social etiquette and protocol of 'avoiding certain discussion in the Church pulpit' is normal for me. I have had counterblast for breaking so called 'decorum' of our hyper-modest society by pressing hot button on many sensitive topics. So this is not new for me. Talking about 'pornography from Spiritual standpoint' seems 'unnecessary' and 'cheap' to many comfy and cozy Christians. It has become our 'custom' to remain silent on virtually anything that brings 'hot discussion', that systematic downgrading has affected even our 'Doctrinal standpoints' because again nobody wants to remain sharp in these matters, 'We all want to enjoy unity without distinction of Truth and Error'.        Having said that, according to one survey by India-today ,India has reported 95% spike in traffic to adult sites during the 3-week lockdown. You are too beguiled and naive if you think 'THIS DOESN'T AFFECT CHRISTIANS'. According to one research firm Barna Group in USA, The survey conducted over the past five years revealed that 68 percent of Christian men and 50 percent of pastors view pornography regularly. If you think this is just men issue, again you are wrong, The same survey looked at women…33% said they view porn at least a few times a year. 15% said they view it at least once a month. [ Copyright © 2020: Research Published by, Proven Men Ministries]   Talking about Indian Church, we are not too far from that reality, because Believers are not immune from 'free internet services' and easily accessible pornographic material. Many good believing youth are struggling with this issue, and that has affected life filled with depression. Christian 'marriages' are heavily affected by this, extra martial affection, divorce and other online sexual misbehavior are direct result of this flood of pornography. We can not imagine but next Christian teenagers are the ones easy prey of this. Are we aware that we are facing 'flood' of new generation in the Church who have real struggle with this and no one is addressing this topic? Let's move into first misconceptions than strategies to fight. This article will deal with both married and unmarried because it is general issue. Commonly ignored Mistakes:-

1)False assumption of Eye and one time thought is the problem:-

You rightly read the Title, 'NEW DRUG', more you delay more stiff it becomes. Part of the reason why This is called the New Drug is it's effects are more addictive than normal cocaine use. We are commanded Not only to flee , but don't look or think. Job 31:1 says, “I made a covenant with my eyes not to look with lust at a young woman. According to this verse, we can clearly see, eye has immediate connection with thinking 'lustfully'., 'What about some of the movies that you watch'?  Prov. 27:20 says, 'Eyes are never satisfied'. Matthew 5:28, " But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." We see here again, lust starts with the window of an 'eye'. Drug users have this 'last one time' problem, pornography has the same problem. Let me just watch this 'last one time'. But we never know that 'one time look and one time thought creates bridge for another'. - Satan's greatest lie is, 'I will just look and don't touch adultery ever', you can't stay there by feeding that tiny thing. Self control starts from , 'Mind'. 1 Peter 1:13 'Therefore, with minds that are alert and fully sober, set your hope on the grace'. So mind is followed by desires , and desire is followed by action. I would also say Reverent fear of God starts with mind. Romans 13:14 Make no provision for flesh. Don't try to keep it and struggle with it. We make provision for our flesh when we accommodate the things that lead to sin and actually make preparations for sinning. Those who make provision for the flesh are like an over-indulgent parent who winks at his child’s misbehavior and gratifies his every whim. When we allow ourselves to remain in tempting situations instead of fleeing them, we are foolishly placing confidence in the flesh. We believe the lie that our sinful flesh will somehow find the strength to resist at the last moment. Then we are shocked and ashamed when, instead of resisting, we give in. - The New Drug is more powerful than toxic cocaine because it doesn't go away easily. False assumption of one time thought actually builds chain of thought. We think let me think and see little while it is normal I will not go that far. That is lie from satan. Break the chain from very first stage. It is chain of thought, let's understand this. 'Porn activation Sequence' :- (Covenant Eyes  presented this idea by  Dr. Kevin Skinner) -->--Stimulus----->---response--->------chemical release---->----strong desire--->--battle-->---porn website----> (this cycle gets faster and stiffer every time you give in to response stage)

1 Stimulus through normal picture , avoidable / non avoidable. 2 Response to search for it more on google, now 'eye' begins to heavily involve. Definitely and easily avoidable. 3 Chemical release because of picture through 'eye' going into your brain , makes it spark in your brain towards demanding urge. 4 Desire becomes urge. Desire gets more stronger to look at it whatsoever turns into urge. 5 The battle , normally at this stage we try to have battle between GOD or PORN. Which is very late now. 6 Type porn website.  We can not take U turn here because our will is fixed and our heart is set.  You can see graphical illustration even in the word of God something similar to what we just saw, Psalmist says, "He plots trouble while on his bed; he sets himself in a path that is not good; he does not reject evil.   (Psalm 36:4, ) First he plots in mind, second he moves towards the path, third he doesn't think anything wrong with the sin that becomes normal or atleast unavoidable. Spurgeon said, If you make up your mind to love Satan do not pretend to love God, if you desire to serve God serve him fully.  In other words, We can not start this battle if we don't make up our mind. More you move towards chemical release harder it gets to take U turn. However God can save us at any stage, but If you can break the chain before chemical release in the response stage it is more likely that you will be delivered from Porn addiction, as that habit becomes your normal pattern to avoid any thought. It is daily exerciser. More you give in to response stage and pass towards chemical release stage, it becomes difficult to get out of chain.  Because you push towards strong desire and urge, it is difficult to get out of temptation. (After Desire is conceived- James 4) Try to stop activation sequence before it starts at stimulus stage don't move towards 'response' stage. Avoid places when you find more stimulus, which sometimes are unavoidable but most of the times are avoidable. Stimulus stage is often avoidable and sounds natural/ safe but it's trick of devil. Don't forget devil comes as an angel of light. Things like watching bollywood news, actress succeeds in her career, chatting with women about God , search how to do gymnastics , looking at model magazine cover , looking at mall poster, desire to see latest female fashion trends, desire to meet lady at the store, to purchase tempting movie, to look back again to the lady walking at the swimming, surfing women's profile pictures, follow fitness model on instagram..... all these come under stimulus stage which causes intuition. If you respond to intuition to grow further in that direction you fall into trap. When you deny that intuition , you break the chain. If you know that particular avoidable intuition has a potential to lead you into further tempting things 'stop right there' ! i.e. Don't search for top 10 fitness models in the world , or don't check belly reduce exercise by beautiful women , don't think that this would somehow be ok. It's all trap. Someone may argue , this is so hard to accept in today's fashion world, well don't think your problem is easy to deal with. - Sometimes Stimulus also comes by 'remembering things', objectifying the things and people in our minds are very strong stimulus, i.e. Search by names 'Actresses, Celebrity, pornstars, particular seductive channel on youtube, certain netflix series that has names to be remembered'. Never try to search their names and never put anything in your mind that you can remember in that direction. It is trying to build a link in your mind to build upon a stimulus (Romans 13:14- make no provision for the flesh). This even connects to having movies in our computer that tempts us to stimulus, anything which objectifies something easily can be remembered and that is deadly when it comes to 'Porn'. If I can put this in one statement 'names help remembering or searching anything which you will later on remember to search back.'  - Lastly most important thing, Saying 'no' at stimulus stage should not take longer time, as John Piper says, you have to say no within 5 seconds. What he means by that is, these kind of stimulus are so strong that if we take longer time they easily lodge in our minds, if they just come in and if we immediately cast them out they won't have chance to flourish. But if we 'savor' them for more than 5 seconds they immediately become stronger and stiff.

   2)False Security of family:- - People think one time Pornography will not affect their marriage that bad. - Frequent variety of sex , positions the mind to look different people in unhealthy way, and you don't enjoy then the same wife, same adrineline rush, same body parts doesn't ignite the mind and sex drives upto the level that your mind has been trained by Porn actresses. Sex drives need more bizarre and variety of people to look at and what that does it when you have sex without any of those attraction with your actual wife you can be a victim of 'Ejaculation dysfunction' , where male sex drives would not easily reach to the natural orgasm point which would be enjoyed otherwise without Porn addiction !!! To put it simple , Excessive use of porn will so dull the man in bedroom that he is no more sexually excited when he physically looks at his naked wife in front of him !!!! - This even leads to marital dissatisfied sex life , because it keeps you continued up high adrenaline rush, while watching porn studies have been made by  Neurological students which says your brain release Dopamine, Neropinephrine, Oxytocin, serotonin ,a form of euphoria, which creates your brain- appetite for having more of sexual orientation than your normal pattern. So you want more porn. So you force your wife to have more sex to satisfy your brain impulses which is never ending , which leads to struggle between natural pattern and unnatural appetite. Sometime later your impulses get aroused only by those extremely hyper porn scenes  , and you stop enjoying normal realistic sex with your partner.  -   Masturbation is the same thing if you think of wonder women. BUT, Different case can be made if married person masturbates thinking about his own wife than also it is problematic later. Since God didn't design solo performances to selfishly enjoy yourself , at the same time it replaces the other partner's right to be involved in physical sex.  When one partner finishes his drive of sex by solo performance than it just kills the longing to be physical with his/her spouse. And so when his/her Spouse is present, he/she just doesn't have the drive to be physical, so in one sense it kills actual marital rights each person has.  (1 Corinthians 7:3-5)  There is a virtue in physical sex and not in masturbation. If your marital disputes always allow you to go into room and satisfy your passions by yourself , than you are acting dishonestly with your partner. On the contrary if you do it in the confidence of your spouse habitually, than also it will kill your regular sex-life inside the marriage which is again painful for your spouse who is not enjoying actual sex. And so situation forces both spouses than to masturbate individually without 'waiting for each other', that would eventually lead to separate sex-life which is not healthy marriage.

   3) False Security of relationship with God in future:-

- Most of the time , mind gives false security excuse like, 'This is last time, let me do it, and than for lifetime I will not see pornography' and 'we make commitment towards future' , but we forget present. This often gives us excuse to do sin one more time by making commitments for life time. We are planning for lifetime but we are losing present day/time. War is not in future, war is today. We think about life time commitment but neglect NOW.  Pray to God , deliver me first now and today , rather than lifetime. Fight a day at a time. Of course lifetime freedom is our goal , but that doesn't start neglecting today. Fight Right now, don't allow false security about lifetime distract you. That diminishes the offence and creates the defense for sin which is Satan's greatest lie. - Somehow we think that it is going to be ok with the Lord in future; in reality instead sin will grow. Short term desires lead to long run desires, before you know you are slave to it. - David not only did adultery but lied and murdered'. Sexual immortality will inevitably lead to host of sins. You develop an appetite for whole lot of other things. It is NOT going to be OK  with God. After you shut off that porn website,  it will lead you to commit many other sins, not to mention that same thing again and again.  - Feed the tiny lust which comes and passes away briefly , and you will soon produce a dragon of desire which will be difficult to deal with, once again it's a New Drug. Feed the tiny flicker of sin and it will inflame the whole field soon. If we don't fight with small desire, once you feed it, you will have to deal with bigger desire. If you ignore visitors , they will go, if you feed them they will stay and build their powers gradually. Feed one time impulse to porn and that impulse will grow like a tree , and you will have more stronger impulses , because you fed that small impulse. Every time you feed little lust, you make yourself more comfortable to it , and so more vulnerable you become. So remember , it is not going to be 'ok' with the Lord or with the sin. Oxford University did survey in 2016 said that habitual porn users' mind is like drunkard. More you watch porn more you lose willpower to say no. - As the root of all kinds sin is 'pride' , it is our self-esteem and self-confidence that we will get away with one time offence to God. It is worst error to think that we are capable to deal with entertaining little sins and still be able to come back to God. The reality is , we often forget that in our ability we can not follow God. We think of distant safe future while breaking the immediate future. The proud assumption is , 'I can handle it in future'. - It's appetite not for second half of the day , but for long years and decades people find themselves in bondage to Porn, just because they don't stop feeding that small flicker of the lust which comes by and passes quickly. I have heard of believers who didn't get victory until their old-age. It doesn't mean their salvation is lost but that their sanctification is hugely affected. And for sure it restricts your better usability by God. It surely would have restricted Joseph's influence to Pharoah, if he had given up to sexual temptation. So it surely will give you less productivity in ministry and Christian life if not none. If you are giving yourself to pornography, you abhor God every time and slander the grace which would have bestowed otherwise. Joseph would have never been where he was and the influences that he had for God, were he not sexually pure. We often ignore the cost it will create. Proverb 7:23 says about that sin, 'He did not know that it would cost'.  Stop feeding the impulses which are easy to fight with, so that you don't create a dragon which is difficult to cast away. - Joseph was being approached day by day by her, but Joseph could stand for God , because he was talking to God day by day. It's never one time victory which is often false hope given by devil. It is always day by day. If you are not fighting now, you will not fight tomorrow. Because tomorrow depends upon today. And so clear off false security of relationship with God. Porn will affect tomorrow for sure, people have confessed defeat in this area in their 90s , just because they believed for long that , somehow this sin will not affect tomorrow let me do it just today for the last time. If you don't run from it now, you will not run to God tomorrow.

4) False practice Let Go Let God:-

- People often say, leave upto God and relax. Well , we depend on God in everything that doesn't mean we relax thinking no temptation will hit us. People often forget that Jesus said, Pray that you will not fall into temptation, but at the same time He also said pluck out your eye if it causes you to sin. That would even mean do whatever action to say NO , at the same time pray earnestly, with fasting if you want, without ceasing.  - We are not only required to say Yes to God , but also Say no to any intuition that comes. Constant practice of saying no, is a discipline. We depend on God , God said cast your burdens on me which is in reference to over-anxiety but that doesn't mean God wants us to become passively relax. He wants us to play on our part , that is why we are commanded to Deny ourselves.  - People forget that by saying 'Give up your efforts and attempts against fighting sin and flee to God' is often misused as a tool to not do anything on our part. People think as if they no longer require to work out their Salvation by constant practice of saying no....no....no..... constantly say no to normal intuition which is starting step towards pornography. BY saying no we actually resist the devil who will than flee from us. Don't think by becoming passive and action less you will ever win over pornography , we are required to gauge our eyes and cut our hands if that is required.

  5) False security of one time deliverance :-

- Lot of people believe, some kind of mystical experience with God in prayer will fix that thing. So they always wait for the particular day. We often lose battle about 'everyday-discipline', because we don't understand it is process not event. John Piper said that, 'Greatest tragedy is not when you fall in masturbation or internet fornication, but when satan uses those failures to strip you off of your once radical dream' , when you give up holding ,give up fighting and settle with middle class Christianity. Hebrew 12- Let us run with perseverance. - Temptations are always going to be there. Don't just ignore sin, kill it (MacArthur). But, I would add , fight it until you kill it.  This is where you are no longer defensive but offensive towards sin. Grind it to powder , that's why title says fight the new drug. It is a fight, not watch-show. Daily prayers and the word are strongest way to be offensive to sin. Fix your eyes on Jesus every day , enjoy him every day until it kills all joys in pornography. (Hebrew 12:2. Col 3:2) Pray 24 hours would be the best strategy, yes 24 hours. Because it is dangerous plague. By simply saying NO to sin you can not have victory, let the scripture and prayer in your heart fight with sin. (Col 2:20-23) Just saying no, won't help. (However, that doesn't mean as we saw in earlier point that we don't say 'no at all', or put no efforts in saying no) Deliverance from porn is not one time event ; it is robust process of saying no to temptation, saying yes to God and to prayer every moment. Don't think one time prayer will make you suddenly strong as if some kind of mysterious happenings will turn you upside down. That is unbilical.  - Notice Jesus has asked us to pray everyday 'Do not lead us into temptation', it is not one time event often people expect as if that experience with God suddenly is going to fix the porn. No, it is a process. You become strong day by day , if you take actions and if you obey , next time you obey more. It is chain reaction. 

6) No realization of fear of the Lord :-  - John Calvin once said, Nothing is more powerful to overcome temptation than fear of God.' And I think it is most necessary truth connected to pornography. Exodus 20:20, 'Fear of God will be with you to keep you from sinning'.  - This is last but mostly neglected simple truth. After talking this much super - analytical things most of us would imagine this last point is Sunday school type section. I often laugh at myself , because after much struggle in my teenage period I realize that I have often neglected the power of this simple truth. Really Fear of the Lord is beginning of everything. This is last but most powerful truth.  - Most of the time we assume that we fear God , but when it comes to particular instance we almost forget that God even exists and His eyes watch over us. When we go underground into our little cocoons and imagine we are alone, we forget the 'fear of God'.   - Imagine if your spouse enters the room and watches you , will you continue to watch porn or will you shutdown? The question is why will you shutdown? Simple answer is 'fear of man'.  - We will have immediate self-control when somebody is watching us , we never turn Pornography in Church service, really not because it is worship service but because there are people. We fear men. - Same way when we are alone, we think nobody is watching us. That false view of God takes away fear of God. We are not really alone , Lord's eyes are always watching us. We almost imagine a god which doesn't exist and than just do it , thinking no body is watching us. When in reality god that we have imagined is not the God of the Bible, so the final analysis is 'we have no realization of the fear of God'.  - Fear of the Lord, keeps us away from Sin, no matter how simple that truth may be , but that is Golden rule of the scriptures. Fear is beginning of wisdom that brings us closer to God. Keep updating yourself with fear of the Lord, constantly be reminded that Lord watches over us , and we will have self-control. This has been my experience for years when I was wondering for different types of strategies to flee youthful lust but often neglect the fear of God. I never realized for years that deliverance from sins of youth is not that complicated thing which is preserved in higher critical expository answers. But, when I simply realized that answer lies in the Fear of God, I could see self-control.   - Fear of the Lord doesn't come in an instant 'let your heart burn with scripture read Old Testament , Torah, Kings, Samuel, Judges , Prophets and behold the Glory of the Lord and his judgement and faithfulness throughout the Old Testament and see Christ , you will understand what is Fear of the Lord' , it requires discipline of the mind and constant realization that God is present when I am alone. Fear of the Lord is a process rather than an event.  Different Strategies: We don't just want to end up with reasons of falling in this article but strategies to come out.

1) Renew Mind with scripture :

First strategy is always be marinated in scripture and it will fight like a lion. Romans 12:2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. This one is 'Fight at its peak' , remember we are not just playing 'defence' , we must learn how to operate in a war with 'offensive mode'. If soldier never learns how to use war planes for attacks, only playing 'defensive' will not sustain longer. You are required not just to defend , but to attack. For that Scripture is major part of our attack plan.

2) Constant prayer -

Renew Mind with scripture; but sometimes our heart overrules our mind even during the process of sanctification heart is continuously deceitful it produces evil desires constantly even when we are transformed in our mind. (our desires coming from the heart overrules our will and intellectual knowledge about the scripture) for that we need grace to change our heart everyday. We need scripture to sanctify our mind and hearts and we also need prayer for grace to change our hearts and desires. Deliver us from evil should be every minute prayer if you are struggling with this. It is simply dependence on Grace. keep praying especially when you don't feel attempted and you are in your right mind. I would consider this to be the part of 'fight and fleeing' constant prayer if possible 24 hours guarantees deliverance. 

  3) Hide :

Prov. 22:3 (Hide), Prov. 27:12 Hide from evil, The more you walk along the edge of temptation, the more certain you are to fall into it.  -Garret Bell (9Marks) This even requires hiding away from such friends, places, movies, thoughts, websites, insta-accounts, fitness models etc.  

4) Pursue:

 Notice it is not just Flee (not fight) but Pursue righteousness (all the time) 2 Tim.2: 22 (Do not only flee but pursue). Man busy in Lord, will be less given to thoughts. Spend time with those who are breathing examples of faithfulness, have fellowship with them and pursue this race of righteousness.  Spiritual Laziness is breeding ground for bad thinking says Paul Washer. Do not be deceived , nothing good will come from wordly things. Don't substitute good with Best.

  5) Delight in the wife of your youth.

For married couple, 1 Cor. 7:5 Don't deprive each other sexually except for prayer, and come together lest devil tempts you for lack of self control. Remember 'you can be the the reason for your spouse's addiction', of course each person is guilty but, when Paul said this important instruction it was intended for something in the marriage. Many times we don't think about 'self-sacrificing in this area' but listen what Paul said about self-sacrificing in this area, "The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife." (1 Co.  7:4), this doesn't speak of abusive, tyrannical demands but 'self-sacrificing' attitude in marriage when it comes to 'giving' rather than 'taking advantage'. 

6) Discipline to flee from desires :

I beat my body and make it my slave. 1 Cor. 9:27, 'Hoopopiazo' (Greek) means strike under the eye. To strictly not allow body to win over desire. i.e. Olympic athlete who practices running every morning at 4 o'clock. Idea is strict discipline to say 'No' and flee. 1 Thess. 4:8 ' Abstain from Sexual Immorality' is not just fighting with devil, like James says for other temptations 'resist the devil' but to flee and avoid that fight itself when it comes to sexual thoughts, because we are not strong enough to fight with something which God has called us to flee. Once again, 1 Cor. 6:19 'Flee', not fight. 7) Fight in the mind :

1 Thess. 4:4-5 says 'each of you must know how to control his own body in holiness and honor' , than it says, Not in lustful passions (Not to be driven by;  which let your passion grab hold) , but be Sober minded ( mind which is sober is in it's senses, commonly related to those who are not drunk)  Another reference particularly use 'being sober minded' is in 1 Cor. 15:34. "Wake up from your drunken stupor (ESV)/ be sober minded (NASB), as is right, and do not go on sinning". 'Youthful lust' are related to your mind. So take care of your mind. Battle always starts in mind, not outside. Firm determination is inevitable, plus constant saying 'no' requires mental discipline which becomes 'mind war' for believer. 8) Don't break small boundaries :

Sexual immorality begins by breaking small boundaries. It is not a fall it is a slide. As said earlier, The more you walk along the edge of temptation, the more certain you are to fall into it. (Garret Bell 9marks). Think how much Christian liberty you take which could be avoided. Sometimes there are so many overconfident steps we take as if we are mature enough to control ourselves i think that is pride. Scripture says, Therefore let anyone who thinks that he stands take heed lest he fall.(1 Cor 10:12) 9) Avoid desire :

 2 Tim. 2:20, Flee = Avoid don't fight stayin in that area, or don't face that situation. Remember Joseph fled from temptation, he didn't stand there and faught with temptation. Sometimes you physically need to flee or mentally. We are not saying 'avoid fighting' but 'avoid that kind of fighting where you stay in particular environment and than fight the temptations'. i.e. Fleeing away from some person or place that might lead you to that direction. Another word in 2 Timothy 2:20 is  Desires= its not normal evil desires but it related with lust also. Tenth Commandment is actually You shall not desire improperly. Youthful desires = it doesn't mean this desires are restricted only to youth and not mature, 'Youthful' means undisciplined desires which is immature.

10) Avoid Pre-planning :

Rom. 13:16 'Make no provision for flesh'. This speaks of any pre-planning for possibility to engage in lustful desires. Viewing Porn requires pre-planning, it is embracing planning for youthful lust. It is just opposite of Fleeing. That is why playing in the areas which might create those desires itself is prohibited. SO there is no excuse whether to watch Hollywood movies with sensuality is 'ok' or not, beautiful women specifically designed with appealing dresses and cleavage inevitably leads you to some thoughtful action. Filmmaker may sensor cut it, but the scenes in your mind will not sensor cut it.

11) Be Radical:

When it come to Sexual sin it is said- gouge out your eye (relating in Matthew 5 to desires). It may require radical actions if you find, yourself hung up on this drug.. i.e. Not having internet access, not going to movie theater. Loose internet but save your soul.

  12) Pursue something greater:

2 Tim. 2 :22, Pursue- Right Faith, love, peace. It is active Pursuit. Active striving for righteousness by constantly warning yourself is not legalism, it is the evidence of Grace. Phil. 2:12 'work it out not only with fear but with double fear which is trembling'.  Word of Faith teachers like Joel Osteen, Josheph Prince will come and tell you don't try, don't try its legalism, just proclaim Grace. I think that is convulsed understanding. Scripture commands us to try hard, at the same time God who is working in you and will. (Phil 2:12.). Don't just shun evil but refocus your mind on Word. It will not just take temptation away but will give you endurance. Someone has said rightly, fill your mind with theology, that lustful thoughts may find it hard to enter your mind. 13) Don't fight it alone,

but along with those who have pure heart in this. (2 Tim. 2:22) Do you have accountability partner? Does your wife if married knows about it? Share with your best friends struggle about it and pray about it. Active part of accountability and active sanctification happens at the Church, not at youtube preachers. Are you engaged actively with some spiritual fellowship? 14) Think about your testimony :

Looking at Porn makes you unqualified for Ministry. If Money could knock you out of ministry how much more Sex. -John Piper Think about this seriously.

15) Re-examine your growth each time :Struggle

 is not constant pattern of defeat, but increasing pattern of victory. Think are you really struggling? Jesus purchased not only our forgiveness but also our faithfulness. He did not only offer eternal forgiveness but daily sanctification. Think twice , is power of Christ working in you ? Or are you just fighting alone with your own strength?

16) If you are married even than Avoid unnecessary thoughts :

Do not entertain unnecessary sexual thoughts about your wife , when your wife is not around or when you know you are not in a position to satisfy your sexual stimulus (i.e. Only entertain such thoughts when Your wife is around and thinking to engage in sexual intimacy). Because When you enjoy unnecessary sexual impulses , that makes you vulnerable to grab any potential Window of sin to relieve you out. Once you build up the reaction in your brain that is not possible to relieve , you will find something else to relieve that sexual tension which results in possible approach to pornography. Do not be surprised when I say, 'avoid physical touch and embrace to your wife' when you know that, same thing will arouse you and than after you will not be in a position to relieve that sexual pressure out of your brain. Of course this applies to married people, most of married men complain when their wife isn't around they fall into pornography , or sexual fantasy resulting in masturbation. In those cases, I suppose because they somewhere entertain those sexual impulses which they shouldn't have entertained. If you don't allow any such possible windows, you can maintain self-control even when your wife is not around or if she isn't in a position to engage immediately into sexual intercourse.   Lastly Comfort in the struggle John Newton centuries ago wrote,  I asked the Lord that I might grow,  I hoped that in some favored hour  At once He’d answer my request  And, by His love’s constraining pow’r,  Subdue my sins and give me rest.  Instead of this, He made me feel  The hidden evils of my heart  And let the angry pow’rs of hell  Assault my soul in ev’ry part.  Lord, why is this,” I trembling cried;  “Wilt Thou pursue Thy worm to death?”  Tis in this way" The Lord replied  "I answer prayer for grace and faith" “These inward trials I employ  From self and pride to set thee free  And break thy schemes of earthly joy  That thou may’st find thy all in Me.”  Though this is not excuse to do more sin , but compelling reason why God doesn't take it away in a second. Sometimes Lord allows struggle in many areas where we want to end it in a minute, even our struggle with sin so that struggle will kill all joy in earthly schemes , and help us find our only JOY IN THE LORD ALONE.  May God help you in your struggle, Yours for His Glory, Selwin.